I’ve never been a fan of Valentine’s Day. I always thought it was mostly because I was alone, and that I used my disdain for the holiday to mask how much I wished I had a love in my life. But then I did have a love in my life for a few Valentine’s Days, and honestly, I still didn’t think much it. Sure, it was nice to have someone, but it was even nicer to be in love. So maybe my apathy for the day is legit.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about love and about how lousy I can be at loving others sometimes. I’ve decided to change that, and I know just where to begin. With me.
To me, it seems that loving other people is a lot easier to do when you love yourself. Loving yourself is hard because, after all, no one really knows you (your secrets, your thoughts, your actions when no one is around) as well as you know yourself, and if you can love yourself despite all the flaws, then loving others and their flaws doesn’t seem so bad.
There are quite a few things in my life I would like to change, but all of it circles back to me loving myself. I can’t lose weight if I don’t love and respect myself enough to believe I deserve it. I can’t love other people the way they deserve to be loved if I’m so wrapped up in my own problems and my own hate for myself. It’s just not going to happen.
I’m ready to love others fully and deeply. I’m ready to love myself.
Here are some ways I’m going to love myself (I’m sure these can apply to your own life in some way too!):
1. Working out – I’ve noticed when I work out, I have: more energy, a more positive outlook on life, more self-respect.
2. Eating healthy – When I eat crap, it makes me feel like a failure and a loser, but eating healthy makes me feel strong and alive.
3. Giving myself a break – Yes, I’m going to mess up, and when I do, I need to not beat myself up about it because that only makes me do worse. I need to acknowledge what I did wrong, make amends if necessary, and move on.
4. Allowing for quality me-time – Whether that’s giving myself a pedicure or homemade facial, taking the time to journal or watch a favorite movie, learning something new like a language or knitting, or just taking a nap … I need to take care of myself, and I need that down time!
5. Talking to my loved ones – I have a bad habit of not keeping in touch with people, and I hate that. I want to stay connected to the people I love.
So that’s my plan. I hope you all are having a lovely day!